As a fellowship of recovering addicts, Sex Addicts Anonymous offers a message of hope to anyone who suffers from sex addiction.
Through long and painful experience, we came to realize that we were powerless over our sexual thoughts and behaviors and that our preoccupation with sex was causing progressively severe adverse consequences for us, our families, and our friends. Despite many failed promises to ourselves and attempts to change, we discovered that we were unable to stop acting out sexually by ourselves.
Many of us came to this realization when we started attending SAA meetings. In that setting we heard stories similar to ours and realized that recovery from our problem was possible. We learned through the SAA Fellowship that we were not hopelessly defective.
The basic principles of recovery practiced by SAA are found in the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous. Although we are not affiliated with AA or with any other organization or agency, we are, indeed, grateful for permission to modify and apply the Steps and Traditions to sex addiction, making recovery possible for us.
Once you know how to recognize the warning signs that your temper is rising and anticipate your triggers, you can act quickly to deal with your anger before it spins out of control. There are many techniques that can help you cool down and keep your anger in check. Quick tips for cooling down
Focus on the physical sensations of anger. While it may seem counterintuitive, tuning into the way your body feels when you’re angry often lessens the emotional intensity of your anger. Take some deep breaths. Deep, slow breathing helps counteract rising tension. The key is to breathe deeply from the abdomen, getting as much fresh air as possible into your lungs. Exercise. A brisk walk around the block is a great idea. It releases pent-up energy so you can approach the situation with a cooler head. Use your senses. Take advantage of the relaxing power of your sense of sight, smell, hearing, touch, and taste. You might try listening to music or picturing yourself in a favorite place. Stretch or massage areas of tension. Roll your shoulders if you are tensing them, for example, or gently massage your neck and scalp. Slowly count to ten. Focus on the counting to let your rational mind catch up with your feelings. If you still feel out of control by the time you reach ten, start counting again.
Give yourself a reality check
When you start getting upset about something, take a moment to think about the situation. Ask yourself:
How important is it in the grand scheme of things? Is it really worth getting angry about it? Is it worth ruining the rest of my day?
Is my response appropriate to the situation? Is there anything I can do about it? Is taking action worth my time?
Anger How do you feel when you get angry? Has your anger made you hit someone before? Or do you bottle it up inside until you are seething? Do you find that it is uncontrollable? Would you like to be able to not project your anger on other people? Everyone gets angry from time to time. In fact, the Bible records Jesus getting angry on a few occasions. Anger becomes a problem when it is uncontrolled and you react to anger in the wrong way.
The Bible says, "My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires." James 1:19-20
Ephesians 4:26-27 notes that, "In your anger do not sin: do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold."
Proverbs 29:11, "A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control."
Proverbs 15:1, "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh words stirs up anger."
If you feel anger let the Lord be your salvation. Pray now to accept Jesus Christ.
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DeleteAbout SAA
As a fellowship of recovering addicts, Sex Addicts Anonymous offers a message of hope to anyone who suffers from sex addiction.
Through long and painful experience, we came to realize that we were powerless over our sexual thoughts and behaviors and that our preoccupation with sex was causing progressively severe adverse consequences for us, our families, and our friends. Despite many failed promises to ourselves and attempts to change, we discovered that we were unable to stop acting out sexually by ourselves.
Many of us came to this realization when we started attending SAA meetings. In that setting we heard stories similar to ours and realized that recovery from our problem was possible. We learned through the SAA Fellowship that we were not hopelessly defective.
The basic principles of recovery practiced by SAA are found in the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous. Although we are not affiliated with AA or with any other organization or agency, we are, indeed, grateful for permission to modify and apply the Steps and Traditions to sex addiction, making recovery possible for us.
Anger management tip 3: Learn ways to cool down
ReplyDeleteOnce you know how to recognize the warning signs that your temper is rising and anticipate your triggers, you can act quickly to deal with your anger before it spins out of control. There are many techniques that can help you cool down and keep your anger in check.
Quick tips for cooling down
Focus on the physical sensations of anger. While it may seem counterintuitive, tuning into the way your body feels when you’re angry often lessens the emotional intensity of your anger.
Take some deep breaths. Deep, slow breathing helps counteract rising tension. The key is to breathe deeply from the abdomen, getting as much fresh air as possible into your lungs.
Exercise. A brisk walk around the block is a great idea. It releases pent-up energy so you can approach the situation with a cooler head.
Use your senses. Take advantage of the relaxing power of your sense of sight, smell, hearing, touch, and taste. You might try listening to music or picturing yourself in a favorite place.
Stretch or massage areas of tension. Roll your shoulders if you are tensing them, for example, or gently massage your neck and scalp.
Slowly count to ten. Focus on the counting to let your rational mind catch up with your feelings. If you still feel out of control by the time you reach ten, start counting again.
Give yourself a reality check
When you start getting upset about something, take a moment to think about the situation. Ask yourself:
How important is it in the grand scheme of things?
Is it really worth getting angry about it?
Is it worth ruining the rest of my day?
Is my response appropriate to the situation?
Is there anything I can do about it?
Is taking action worth my time?
Anger
ReplyDeleteHow do you feel when you get angry?
Has your anger made you hit someone before? Or do you bottle it up inside until you are seething?
Do you find that it is uncontrollable?
Would you like to be able to not project your anger on other people?
Everyone gets angry from time to time. In fact, the Bible records Jesus getting angry on a few occasions. Anger becomes a problem when it is uncontrolled and you react to anger in the wrong way.
The Bible says, "My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires." James 1:19-20
Ephesians 4:26-27 notes that, "In your anger do not sin: do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold."
Proverbs 29:11, "A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control."
Proverbs 15:1, "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh words stirs up anger."
If you feel anger let the Lord be your salvation. Pray now to accept Jesus Christ.
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