As a fellowship of recovering addicts, Sex Addicts Anonymous offers a message of hope to anyone who suffers from sex addiction.
Through long and painful experience, we came to realize that we were powerless over our sexual thoughts and behaviors and that our preoccupation with sex was causing progressively severe adverse consequences for us, our families, and our friends. Despite many failed promises to ourselves and attempts to change, we discovered that we were unable to stop acting out sexually by ourselves.
Many of us came to this realization when we started attending SAA meetings. In that setting we heard stories similar to ours and realized that recovery from our problem was possible. We learned through the SAA Fellowship that we were not hopelessly defective.
The basic principles of recovery practiced by SAA are found in the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous. Although we are not affiliated with AA or with any other organization or agency, we are, indeed, grateful for permission to modify and apply the Steps and Traditions to sex addiction, making recovery possible for us.
If you want to stop using foul language but aren't sure how, or if you have already tried to stop and it didn't work, here are some helpful suggestions you can use.
1. Often, you don't even realize that you're using bad words, since it becomes part of your speech pattern. If you're having this problem, ask your friends to tell you when you use bad words or try to think over what you want to say before you say it.
2. If you and your friends curse but you want to stop, try associating with other people who don't use bad words, and their example may rub off on you. You can also try asking your friends to stop cursing, or at least to try to curb their language around you.
3. Every time you or someone around you curses, have them put a dollar in a "swear jar" and donate it to charity.
4. It's normal for everyone to use an expression of frustration - you just don't have to use a bad word. You can make up a cute, original alternative that you'll want to use instead! (See Alternatives to Bad Words below.)
5. Wear a rubber band or ponytail around your wrist, and whenever you curse, snap it.
6. If you watch television shows that use a lot of bad words, try to find other, cleaner shows to watch. If you listen to music where there is a lot of cursing or explicit content, try to listen to other genres or the censored versions of the songs.
7. Pretend a respected figure in your life (a relative, teacher, religious leader, etc.) is sitting next to you at all times. Would you want to curse if your grandmother can hear?
8. Every time you substitute a different word for a curse word, put a popcorn kernel in a jar. When the jar is full, make a popcorn party for yourself!
9. When you get angry and you want to curse, think of a word that reminds you of a funny time that will make you laugh and calm you down to avoid saying the bad word.
Remember that it may take a while to stop. Just try your best and keep at it. Bear in mind that you don't have to completely eradicate bad words from your language. Just make a sincere effort to keep it to a minimum, and only in appropriate situations.
When to seek help for anger management and control
If your anger is still spiraling out of control, despite putting the previous anger management techniques into practice, or if you’re getting into trouble with the law or hurting others—you need more help. There are many therapists, classes, and programs for people with anger management problems. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. You’ll often find others in the same shoes, and getting direct feedback on techniques for controlling anger can be tremendously helpful. Consider professional help if:
You feel constantly frustrated and angry no matter what you try. Your temper causes problems at work or in your relationships. You avoid new events and people because you feel like you can’t control your temper. You have gotten in trouble with the law due to your anger. Your anger has ever led to physical violence.
Therapy for anger problems. Therapy can be a great way to explore the reasons behind your anger. If you don’t know why you are getting angry, it’s very hard to control. Therapy provides a safe environment to learn more about your reasons and identify triggers for your anger. It’s also a safe place to practice new skills in expressing your anger. Anger management classes or groups. Anger management classes or groups allow you to see others coping with the same struggles. You will also learn tips and techniques for managing your anger and hear other people’s stories. For domestic violence issues, traditional anger management is usually not recommended. There are special classes that go to the issue of power and control that are at the heart of domestic violence.
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DeleteAbout SAA
As a fellowship of recovering addicts, Sex Addicts Anonymous offers a message of hope to anyone who suffers from sex addiction.
Through long and painful experience, we came to realize that we were powerless over our sexual thoughts and behaviors and that our preoccupation with sex was causing progressively severe adverse consequences for us, our families, and our friends. Despite many failed promises to ourselves and attempts to change, we discovered that we were unable to stop acting out sexually by ourselves.
Many of us came to this realization when we started attending SAA meetings. In that setting we heard stories similar to ours and realized that recovery from our problem was possible. We learned through the SAA Fellowship that we were not hopelessly defective.
The basic principles of recovery practiced by SAA are found in the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous. Although we are not affiliated with AA or with any other organization or agency, we are, indeed, grateful for permission to modify and apply the Steps and Traditions to sex addiction, making recovery possible for us.
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DeleteIf you want to stop using foul language but aren't sure how, or if you have already tried to stop and it didn't work, here are some helpful suggestions you can use.
1. Often, you don't even realize that you're using bad words, since it becomes part of your speech pattern. If you're having this problem, ask your friends to tell you when you use bad words or try to think over what you want to say before you say it.
2. If you and your friends curse but you want to stop, try associating with other people who don't use bad words, and their example may rub off on you. You can also try asking your friends to stop cursing, or at least to try to curb their language around you.
3. Every time you or someone around you curses, have them put a dollar in a "swear jar" and donate it to charity.
4. It's normal for everyone to use an expression of frustration - you just don't have to use a bad word. You can make up a cute, original alternative that you'll want to use instead! (See Alternatives to Bad Words below.)
5. Wear a rubber band or ponytail around your wrist, and whenever you curse, snap it.
6. If you watch television shows that use a lot of bad words, try to find other, cleaner shows to watch. If you listen to music where there is a lot of cursing or explicit content, try to listen to other genres or the censored versions of the songs.
7. Pretend a respected figure in your life (a relative, teacher, religious leader, etc.) is sitting next to you at all times. Would you want to curse if your grandmother can hear?
8. Every time you substitute a different word for a curse word, put a popcorn kernel in a jar. When the jar is full, make a popcorn party for yourself!
9. When you get angry and you want to curse, think of a word that reminds you of a funny time that will make you laugh and calm you down to avoid saying the bad word.
Remember that it may take a while to stop. Just try your best and keep at it. Bear in mind that you don't have to completely eradicate bad words from your language. Just make a sincere effort to keep it to a minimum, and only in appropriate situations.
When to seek help for anger management and control
ReplyDeleteIf your anger is still spiraling out of control, despite putting the previous anger management techniques into practice, or if you’re getting into trouble with the law or hurting others—you need more help. There are many therapists, classes, and programs for people with anger management problems. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. You’ll often find others in the same shoes, and getting direct feedback on techniques for controlling anger can be tremendously helpful.
Consider professional help if:
You feel constantly frustrated and angry no matter what you try.
Your temper causes problems at work or in your relationships.
You avoid new events and people because you feel like you can’t control your temper.
You have gotten in trouble with the law due to your anger.
Your anger has ever led to physical violence.
Therapy for anger problems. Therapy can be a great way to explore the reasons behind your anger. If you don’t know why you are getting angry, it’s very hard to control. Therapy provides a safe environment to learn more about your reasons and identify triggers for your anger. It’s also a safe place to practice new skills in expressing your anger.
Anger management classes or groups. Anger management classes or groups allow you to see others coping with the same struggles. You will also learn tips and techniques for managing your anger and hear other people’s stories. For domestic violence issues, traditional anger management is usually not recommended. There are special classes that go to the issue of power and control that are at the heart of domestic violence.
“Those who are free of resentful thoughts surely find peace.” - Buddha
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